Discovering the Comfort: The Art of Lying Down Breastfeeding

Jun. 22, 2025 | 5 min read

sharon dover
Topics & Categories: Pumping Tips and Tricks

When breastfeeding sessions are long and plentiful, finding positions that offer both comfort and efficiency can feel like discovering a hidden treasure. Among these, breastfeeding while lying down is particularly transformative for many mothers. It's a position that promises rest and ease, turning what might sometimes be a tiring task into a moment of shared serenity. This age-old practice offers profound benefits not just for the baby, but significantly for the mother's tired body and mind.

Relief for Your Body and Mind

Think about the countless hours spent holding your baby, sitting upright, or worse, leaning forward, during feeding sessions. This can put immense strain on your neck, shoulders, back, and wrists. For mothers recovering from birth, the pressure on episiotomy stitches and sore muscles can make upright feeding particularly challenging. Lying down to breastfeed offers an escape from this physical burden. When you lie on your side, your body is fully supported by the bed, allowing your muscles and joints to relax deeply. There's no need to hold your baby's weight or maintain a rigid posture. This freedom from tension can be incredibly soothing, helping to alleviate existing aches and preventing new ones from forming. Many mothers find that this position is where they can finally let go of physical stress, sinking into the moment rather than bracing against discomfort. It's truly a posture of restoration for a body working tirelessly to nourish and care for a new life.

The "Cuddle Curl" and Safe Sleep

The practice of lying down to breastfeed is not just about comfort; it's also deeply connected to safe sleep, particularly if you find yourself drifting off with your baby close. Dr. James J. McKenna, a leading anthropologist who has dedicated his career to studying infant sleep, extensively researched what he calls the "Cuddle Curl." This specific side-lying position is instinctively adopted by mothers and helps create a protective space for the baby. When performed correctly, the Cuddle Curl positions the mother's body in a way that prevents her from rolling onto the baby, while simultaneously keeping pillows and blankets away from the baby's face.

Recognizing the safety and natural alignment of this position, both the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) and the Academy of Breastfeeding Medicine (ABM) acknowledge the side-lying position, specifically the "Cuddle Curl," as the only safe position to sleep with your baby if you are sharing a sleep surface. This acceptance underscores its biological appropriateness and the inherent protective posture it provides. It's a testament to our innate design for close, responsive care, allowing for seamless, minimally disruptive night feeds that can contribute to more overall sleep for both mother and child.

Given the high probability of falling asleep while breastfeeding in such a comfortable position, it is absolutely crucial to be aware of and strictly adhere to the Safe Sleep guidelines. These include: 1) You and any other sleeping partners are non-smokers. 2) You and any other sleeping partners are sober and unimpaired by alcohol. 3) You are not on medications that cause deep sleep or impair your awareness. 4) The baby is full-term and healthy. 5) The baby is on their back (unless actively feeding). 6) The sleep surface is firm. 7) There are no heavy bedding, pillows, or soft objects near the baby. Following these vital steps helps create the safest possible environment for those precious moments of close, responsive care, allowing for seamless, minimally disruptive night feeds that can contribute to more overall sleep for both mother and child.

 

How to Master the Lying Down Latch: Practical Steps

Getting comfortable with breastfeeding lying down might take a little practice, but once you find your rhythm, it can become your favorite go-to position, especially during the nighttime hours. Here's how to set yourselves up for a successful and cozy feed:

  1. Lie on your side: Begin by lying comfortably on your side on a firm mattress. Ensure your head is supported by a flat pillow, keeping it away from your baby. Your legs should be gently curled as if you are slightly protecting something with your knees.
  2. Position your baby at breast level: Gently bring your baby to lie on their side facing you, ensuring their tummy is touching your tummy. Their mouth should be directly aligned with your nipple.
  3. Place baby under your arm: Your baby's head should be positioned roughly level with your armpit, with their body extending down your side, under your bottom arm. The bottom arm, the one that is close to your mattress, forms a gentle barrier that helps keep you from rolling towards your baby and also keeps your pillow clear of their head. After you latch the baby, your bottom arm can be extended forward or tucked under your pillow.
  4. Guide the breast with your opposite hand: Use your free hand (the one that is not touching the mattress) to gently guide your breast towards your baby's mouth. You might need to compress your breast slightly to help them latch effectively.
  5. Ensure baby looks up a bit before latching: To achieve a deep, comfortable latch, encourage your baby to tilt their head back slightly, so their nose is level with your nipple, and they are looking "up" at your breast. This encourages them to open wide and take in a good portion of the areola.
  6. Maintain curled legs for protection: Keep your legs bent at the knee. This creates a natural boundary, offering further protection to your baby and making it less likely to roll onto them inadvertently.

More Than Just a Position: Benefits Beyond the Latch

The benefits of breastfeeding lying down extend far beyond immediate physical relief. For nighttime feeds, this position can be revolutionary, allowing both mother and baby to remain in a state of semi-sleep, leading to significantly more rest overall. There's no need to fully wake up, sit up, or stumble to another room. The close physical contact also fosters a powerful sense of connection and security for your baby, reinforcing the attachment bond. Many mothers find that this relaxed setting encourages a more peaceful and efficient feeding, as both mother and child are more at ease.

Experience the Ease

Breastfeeding lying down is a powerful tool in your parenting toolkit. It's a testament to the wisdom of our bodies and a truly comfortable way to meet your baby's needs while also prioritizing your own well-being. By understanding its safety parameters, particularly the "Cuddle Curl," and practicing the steps, you can reach a new level of ease and connection in your breastfeeding journey, transforming those frequent feeds into moments of cherished calm and much-needed rest.

 

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